"Procrastination is the fear of success. People procrastinate because they are afraid of the success that they know will result if they move ahead now. Because success is heavy, carries a responsibility with it, it is much easier to procrastinate and live on the 'someday I'll' philosophy."
- Denis Waitley
The fear of failure is often actually a mask for the fear of success. To many people it doesn’t seem to make sense that there would be such a thing as the fear of success when you want to achieve a goal so much. But our unconscious mind holds thoughts from times gone by that can be creating fear of future successes. Instead of beating yourself up for sabotaging your progress, listen deeply within to the fears that are hiding beneath the surface, causing you to sabotage your success. This is the reason we need to seek out the gift in our mistakes and failures, they illuminate our unconscious fears. If you have trouble hearing them, speak with a coach who will be able to help you identify them easily enough.
You may fear that giving a voice to your fears will actually give them energy and attention. In reality what happens is you are then aware of them, and can shine the light of awareness on them. Old thoughts can be gradually replaced by new thoughts. The fears will never disappear completely, but through the courage of your heart you will notice them having less of a hold on your life, becoming pebbles instead of rocks. The new thoughts will begin to gain strength and become louder than the old ones.
Ignoring the fears when they surface, pretending you don't have them, or thinking that they only exist in others, will only result in them playing out underneath the surface, creating resistance to the goal you are setting out to achieve. The Law of Attraction does not respond to what we are thinking, but to how we feel about what we are thinking. So, if you are unconsciously fearing something, but not allowing yourself to aknowledge it, you can end up creating more resistance for yourself. It is OK to feel fear. And you don't need to challenge or discover every fear now. As you take action towards your goal, the fears will surface for you to challenge them, and you can meet them with courage.
In my time of jotting fears down over the years, I have noticed many in myself. They are ones that have surfaced in those I have coached and spoken to at events everywhere.
- fear of disapproval and not pleasing people.
- belief that success comes before a fall.
- fear of being successful but unhappy.
- people will place too many expectations on my shoulders.
- fear of abundance because of the family beliefs that we grew up with about abundance and prosperity.
- fear of criticism.
The list could go on. All of these are a result of old thought patterns still running the show. Thoughts that had a strong emotional component attached to them. I have moved through many of them, but periodically an unconscious fear becomes conscious. And with an awareness of the records that are playing, I can begin to create new records, thoughts that help me create myself anew, such as the following:
I approve of myself, I release the need to please everyone, and listen to my intuition with every choice I make.
I allow myself to succeed.
I am successful and happy.
I am abundant and enjoy my prosperity.
I am immune to critcism.
With persistence, a strong desire, and an allowing heart, you can imagine in to being the person you want to become. That person will still have fears surface from time to time, but they will not paralyse, they fuel your success.
F.E.A.R = Feeling Excited And Ready
Allow yourself to hear your fears, listen to what they have to say. You could find that an experience from when you were a child still has a hold over you, and a part of your childhood consciousness has been locked in time, waiting to be freed by awareness. And when it is freed, watch out world!
The best way to transcend the fears, is to walk with them. Write that book. Call that person. Launch that product. Make that investment. The fears will present themselves, but your actions and awareness will bring about new results.
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