For Those Who Are Doing It All Alone

One of the most common obstacles to growth is the one around asking for help. Many people continue to struggle, trying to achieve their visions on their own, with various reasons as to why they don't ask for help. 
 
Not asking for help, largely out of pride, left me reeling in large debts a few years ago. I thought I knew it all, and I did not think that anybody would be able to give me advice that I did not know. Boy was I wrong! I may have known a lot at an intellectual level because I had read every book on the market, but, I did not "know" at a cellular level, that this was my truth. And so I stumbled, and fell, until I got up once again, and trusted that there were people who really cared about me and wanted me to achieve my goals. The goals I have achieved in my lifetime were not achieved by myself. They were the result of visible and invisible support that carried me through the most challenging of times, to the most blessed of times. 


There are many different reasons why people don’t ask for help.

I truly believe that the ones who make it to the top are not the ones who need the least help, but are actually the ones who have recognised the need for help and have the courage to be truly honest with themselves about this. Knowing that the coach/mentor will give them open honest feedback that will make a huge difference in their life.

Here are some reasons you may not ask for help:

1.       Some folks just don't think they need help. They don't want solutions, or change, they believe that everything is good as it is. To them asking for help is weakness.
   
   
2.       You don't want help because unconsciously you fear success or failure. If you are certain you will fail then why would you step forward? And when you are certain you will succeed, and success looks scary, and help will make you successful, you don't ask for it. 
   
   
3.       You will have to be honest with someone, but first with yourself, and that means looking at stuff that is painful, and you don't want anyone else to see or know about, because you still judge yourself for it. 
   
   
4.       You are afraid that you will look stupid because you “should” know what to do. You've read so many books, and been to so many seminars.  When you don't know what is subconsciously driving you, how can you expect to truly succeed?
   
   
5.        You have tried many times before and it did not work the last time. What’s the point? They will only tell you something that you already know that hasn’t worked for you anyway.  What if they gave you something that was a diamond you have missed?
   
   
6.         You know that they will ask you to do certain things and the rebel within you just doesn’t want to do them.
   
   
7.         You must be prepared to face the fears that they are asking you to face, so that you can create the success you desire.
   
   
8.         You believe deep down inside of yourself that you are not worthy of your vision.

These are all reasons that I have heard from people, for not asking for help.  They are common, but are they reasons for you to stay stuck where you are for the rest of your time on earth?

What if you began to look at them from a new perspective.  You don't need help, you are not needing fixing.  But having someone who sees your potential and can empower you is truly valuable to us all! I have my go to resources, people who provide me with support and guidance where I need it. 

So here is why I think you would benefit from finding help from someone. 

1. Being honest with yourself has to happen, if you want to achieve that goal that you have not achieved. Once you are aware, you have all the power, while you remain unaware, your unconscious conditioning will continue to cause reactions within you. A coach/mentor will keep you honest and help you move forward.
   
   
2. You are the one beating yourself up most for your "flaws", so anything that someone else says can only be a minor bump in the night in comparison. This is where self-forgiveness and being kind to self are so key! When you pick someone of compassion and understanding, they may be firm, but they will have your highest good at heart
   
   
3. Maybe, just maybe they will offer you something that you didn’t know before. And, if they offer you something that you already do know, and their expert guidance is pointing you in that direction, maybe now really is the time to apply that wisdom. Instead of knowing something intellectually, you benefit most when you "know" it at a cellular level. 
   
   
4. The rebel has a good reason for existing. It is how change comes about in the way the world works.  But the shadow rebel is the one that turns away all advice, including good advice. Can you allow yourself to receive life changing wisdom from someone you trust?
   
   
5. If you keep turning away from your fears you will only bump up against them again in the future. Usually in a bigger way than the previous time.  So, if they are surfacing now, why not ask for a little support on that path. All fears are gifts in disguise.  Behind them lie our truest self. And someone who has walked that path can guide you. 
   
   

These are just some reasons that apply. There are many more that I have come across. These are the ones that stopped me in the past and so many I know.  Looking at them from a new perspective opened my up to greater healing within  myself. And those who have been willing to ask for help from the right sources have gone on to create success, and you may not even be aware of who their greatest help was. 

There is greatness seeking to express through you in the world.  Through your devotion to self-realization, with appropriate guidance, you bless the world.   Don't let your fear of not asking for help stop you making that difference......PLEASE!!!!!

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