Fewer Expectations, Less Anxiety

Expect the best, but don't get stuck on what that looks like. I believe we can receive the desires of our heart, but we need to be aware of our expectations, and which ones may be creating unnecessary anxiety. Sometimes, you will get better than what you asked for, have it fulfill all your desires, and be nothing like you expected it to look like. And of course, if sainthood is a goal of yours anytime, then letting go of all and every expectation is part of the way to it. 

The expectations we place upon ourselves and others benefit from regular inventory. All those "should's" which can get in the way of us being happy with the way things are right here right now, and which actually block the manifestation of even greater gifts.

In this article I want to share how I deal with them when they arise in my consciousness. Works for me. Try it out. See how well it works for you. 

Examine the "Should's" That You Are Holding On To

What expectations do you have about what your life should look like by now? Where did you envision yourself being at this point in your life? What kind of home, family, career, relationship? How is Law of Attraction apparently failing or working for you?

You can tell what the should's are because at some level you will feel disappointment they are not happening for you yet. You may be telling yourself it is not the case, denying you feel any expectation, because at some level you believe you have no expectations any more, that you are liberated, and "should" not feel disappointed. Maybe that is so, but be really honest with yourself, most of us still have desires we wish to fulfill. Life is about bringing the subconscious and conscious minds in to harmony, and that is not achieved when we deny our deepest desires. Suppressed desires are what make up our shadow, admitting it is a desire, and shining the light awareness upon it, is what liberates us. 

An example is the man who is on a deeply spiritual path, seeking the simple life, but at the same time is unconsciously concerned what others will think about the lifestyle he lives. When I was enjoying the success and media acknowledgement of the GratiDudes, I harboured these fears about what people would think because I didn't have what I thought I should have as someone living a successful life. And at the same time, I thought that I should be living simply. My expectations were at odds with one another, creating misery within me. 

Be honest with what you expect of yourself and others, then be willing to release those expectations.....


Consciously let go of them.

Once you have identified the expectation, you can release them. You may have a list that looks something like the one below. 

"I should have more money by now."
"I should be not be eating any meat, I am a raw food expert!"
"I should have the house and car that make me look successful."
"I should be in the fifth dimension by now."
"I should not think any negative thoughts."

One way that you can release these expectations is through the Emotional Freedom Technique. It is something that I guide people through and explain in one-one situations. It is beyond the scope of this article to guide you through the process. If you know the process, tap away!

Another way it can be done is through a visualisation process. I think of the expectation that I have, and I offer it on up through my third eye, imagining it being taken far away from my mind. I release any judgement of it, accepting it as simply a thought within my consciousness. The practice of yoga helps us to burn through these desires. Some will burn away and come to nothing, the thought never occurring again, some will be lived out as a gift from God. 

Accept what is. 

When we fight our life as it is, we create stress and anxiety. Look at your present situation and embrace it fully, exactly as it is, and seek the gift in this moment right here. Be aware of the resistance that you feel to it. When you accept it, it does not mean that you won't change it, you just prevent anger and resentment building up within your heart. 

                                                              "What we resist persists."
                                                                      - Buddha


When we can accept the situation, we are at peace within ourselves, and are able to more fully hear the guidance of the voice of our intuition.

When you expect joy, you can create it from within, in any situation, anywhere, anyhow. You can make it your best day ever by simply choosing to make it so. That means, even when the crap shows up, you will find even a little spark of heaven in it, because you expect it to be there. 

If you have a strong desire to create something, expect it. In time it will appear ( though I am not saying it will be in this lifetime), provided you put in the self effort to align vibrationally with it, and take the action you are guided to take. 

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