I was filming the following blog for you, but my video camera failed to record. Ironic, since I am taking you through tapping on the fear of failure. If you haven't experienced this fear, then I respect the level of enlightenment you have reached. If you do experience this fear, and it is paralysing your efforts to work on that project that you have always wanted to do, then it's time to tap! It will reduce the paralysing effects of the fear, but you will still have to take the action at some point.
First: On a scale of 1-10, how big is your fear of failure? 1 being, no fear, 10 being paralysed by it, and you cannot take the next step.
Now lets change that a bit with some EFT.
Here is a reminder of the points that you are tapping on. If you don't remember anything about EFT or I have not taken you through it, jump on to www.TheTappingSolution.com where you can download a booklet and hear various experts talk about it.
It may be that not all the statements resonate with you, so you can focus on the ones that have the most charge for you.
"Even though I have this fear of failure and I am afraid of letting others down, I completely and deeply love and accept myself"
"Even though failure is normal to me, I feel shame about my failures, I don't know what success feels like, I completely and deeply love and accept myself"
"Even though I am working so hard, and not getting anywhere, there is no point in trying again, I completely and deeply love and accept myself"
INSIDE EYEBROW: I have this fear of failure
OUTSIDE EYEBROW: I am afraid of letting them down
UNDER EYE: Failure is normal to me
UNDER NOSE: I feel so much shame about failure
CHIN: I work so hard
COLLAR BONE: I am so tired of working all the time without results
UNDER ARM: I don't know what success feels like
TOP OF HEAD: I never seem to get anywhere
INSIDE EYE: What is the point?
OUTSIDE EYE: I will just fail again.
UNDER EYE: And failure has cost me so much in the past.
UNDER NOSE: I don't want to feel that shame again.
CHIN: I have this fear of failure.
COLLAR BONE: It is stopping me from doing what I know I need to do
UNDER ARM: I am so hard on myself when I fail.
TOP OF HEAD: I keep failing, and don't want to do it again.
So you can spin around those points a few times, until the energy behind them drops until they feel like a 1 at the most. And once that is in, you can follow up by tapping in some of the following positive statements.
INSIDE EYEBROW: I am kind to myself when failure happens.
OUTSIDE EYEBROW: I am willing to find the spiritual lesson in my failures.
UNDER EYE: I allow myself to make failures, knowing they are stepping stones to success.
CHIN: Just because it didn't work before, doesn't mean it won't work this time.
COLLAR BONE: I allow success in my life, and will take note of the little and the large successes.
UNDER ARM: I will get what I want in divine timing.
TOP OF HEAD: I deserve success, and I will succeed.
The above points can be tapped in a few times more, and you can add in ones of your own, affirmations if you like. This exercise may have brought up other thought patterns, and we can work one-on-one if you want to tackle any of them. You may benefit from doing this daily as you work on your big project, step into a new relationship, or begin a new fitness program. Hopefully you will feel lighter, and inspiration for action will come flooding in to your awareness!
I have an aunt who has been spending years working on a book and felling like she was going around in circles. She spent some time doing some EFT like the one above and I have been amazed at the progress she has been making in recent months, she is on fire with the book, and it is awesome to see.
Contact me for further sessions if you want to go deeper with this.
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