Are You Asking Questions, Or The Best Questions?

Earlier this week I was sitting in a mire of confusion, unsure of what the next step to take towards my vision. Not because I did not have any ideas, but because I had too many. And moments after I had a little vent session, an angel in human form stood before me and reminded me that the quality of questions is so important. It is something that I teach, but being caught up in the confusion, I benefitted from the outside perspective. What I got from it was that I still had a better question to ask, and he helped me get to that better question quickly, and since then I can thankfully say that things have been in the flow. This experience has inspired me to write another blog to remind you of the questions you are asking, because sometimes we need a little extra guidance so that we can be asking that great question.


1) Know the vision of where you are going. Focus on the feeling of your vision as you imagine yourself living in it: the lifestyle, the people who surround you, the energies that you want to live in ( peace, happines, vitality, wellness). Get really clear, feel them ( have I stressed how important the feeling is ). What makes you come alive? What are the ways you can best serve people? ( This is often an area where people struggle, they feel confused about what their vision is, or don't believe visioning will do anything for them. I highly recommend a complimentary coaching session if this is you ) Without an idea of where you are going, and the energy you are wanting to experience, you can get confused when making the choices that you are making on your path. 

2) Once you have the vision you can begin asking better questions. When we ask a question, our consciousness goes in search of answers, and ascribes meaning to them. The grail quest myths are based upon the question "Whom does the grail serve?" and the knights learn either quickly or slowly, the answer to this one for themselves. We can ask questions that disempower us, such as "What is wrong with me?" or "Why does this always happen to me?". Your mind will usually find answers to these ones quite easily and associate shame with them. Not very empowering. What we want to do is ask questions that move in the direction of the vision for our life and where we want to go. "What can I do differently to step into the highest vision of my life?" is a much more empowering question. "What is the best path that I can take to reach my vision?" Another better question.

3) Get really specific about the questions that you are asking so that you can guarantee getting the answers you are looking for. One of the questions you could be asking is "Who can support me on this vision?" That can still be quite a vague question, though it will get answered. "Who is the best person to support me in the success of my vision?" Can you see how that is a more specific question which will lead you to the answers you are looking for. In the second question you are asking specifically about the success of your vision, and will narrow down your search. Think of it like google, the more specific your question, the better the search results. 

4) Refine the questions as your journey unfolds. Through experience we get to learn to ask better questions, because we get greater clarity with every experience we have. For instance 5 years ago I asked the question "Who can support me in becoming a better public speaker?" and people came out of the woodwork. I felt though, that some of them lacked authenticity, or used approaches that were out of alignment with my highest truth, and so I was then able to refine my questions. "Who is the best coach to support me in being the most authentic speaker I can be?" I had to experience the contrast before I got the clarity with the question. After the contrast, I was able to fire off new intentions, and new questions empowered my quest in greater ways. 

5) Be open to hearing the answers. Sometimes the answers we get are not the ones our ego likes, but we will usually know whether they are right or not, at an intuitive level. And we will know whether we should take action in the direction of them. The answers usually come quickly, the results come when we decide to take the action. Sometimes the truth of what we need to do can be uncomfortable as it will challenge our greatest fears, and our vision is on the other side of that fear.  Sometimes the answers are actually much more favourable than we ever imagined, and that has happened many times on my personal grail quest too.


So, where do you need to start asking better questions? You will be happy that you take yourself through the above steps, as it will save you pain on the journey. You will still experience contrast, but you will come up with better and better questions if you follow these steps. Let me know what your new and empowering question is. Share it in the comments section below.

 

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