Not everyone values feeling, and for many who do, it feels like they are on their own in a world where others don't. In fact some people see it as a downright weakness that should be eliminated from our world.
More and more people, however, are stepping in to the roles of leadership in work and business who do value feeling and are creating powerful change as a result. They are far from weak, embodying the gift of their intuition when making choices in life, and embodying the warrior archetype in healthy fullness in order to accomplish the challenging feats. Businesses where a nature of fun, love, appreciation and acknowledgement is encouraged. To attract these people and places in to your life, you may need to change some perceptions.
Valuing feeling is something that would be considered a feminine trait, and for the purpose of explanation, that is the label I will use here. In a world that has been patriarchal in essence it is easy to see why this has been the case, but it does not have to be.
Identify How You Treat Yourself Because Of Being A Feeling Person
What most people have been shamed for in the past is being too emotional, too sensitive, moody, "bitchy", insecure or irrational. Some of those indeed can be the shadow side of emotional connection, and we must be aware of them. Shaming ourselves for being too emotional, will prevent us from ever allowing ourselves to truly feel the feelings in the future we want to feel more of - joy, peace, love, gratitude. Even though you may experience moments where you are TOO emotional, completely and deeply love and accept yourself. You are experiencing the emotion, you are not bad because of it. When you stop judging yourself for the trait, you can begin to make changes so that you are aware of feelings in a healthy manner. Oftentimes people who have stepped in to their power can be called bitches or assholes by those who feel challenged by them stepping in to their power. I have had clients called a bully in settings where they needed to be assertive. Be aware of the difference between being genuinely bitchy or a bully, and being empowered in such a way that others may feel defensive. You never need to exert power over another, only hold firm in it within yourself.
Pure Feeling Is Not A Weakness, It Is A Strength That Uplifts Organisations And Relationships
Gratitude, love, compassion, appreciation, forgiveness, intuition; these are all being brought more and more in to the workspace, despite resistance from those who see it as a weakness. In the work I did as a GratiDude I came across those who accepted it, and those who resisted it, and laughed at me, saying it was too touchy feely. That's ok, you can't please everyone. Those who have embraced it are creating flourishing organisations, with happy staff. It does not mean that they are not challenged, but it does mean that they have the tools at their disposal to deal with conflict when it arises, which it surely does. Intuition is one of the greatest gifts we have in our life, and in a world that has devalued feeling, it got kicked to the ground too. Harness the gift of intuition to do good in our world, make better choices, that align with the highest good for everyone. Expressing gratitude and appreciation to those you work and live with, in addition to the necessary feedback, will help to foster a happier environment. Being able to have open discussion, with compassionate listening, helps to build trust so that problems can be solved with greater ease. When you catch yourself thinking of yourself as weak for feeling any of these, remember the gift and value they bring.
Embrace The Fullness Of The Warrior Within You.
There is a need for the warrior archetype, often suppressed because of the negativity that the shadow nature has brought in to the world. The expressions of violence, overworking to the point of burnout, these are the shadow realm of the warrior. But there exist times when it is necessary for the warrior to show up in the world. The warrior who acts from a place of anger brings only harm upon himself and others. The warrior who is acting to fulfill a transpersonal goal, a service to humanity, and is able to remain emotionally detached in the heat of conflict, can bring much to the table. As long as he still embodies the compassion and caring in this role of the warrior too. Hence, being a warrior, and valuing feeling are not mutually exclusive. It is about knowing when to detach, and when to feel. Love does not always come across as flowery, it comes across strong and if that is what is needed to wake us up, then that is what is needed.
Feeling has been perceived as a weakness by too many for too long. We are witnessing a spiritual revolution that is giving permission to people to be true to themselves. There are people who are walking around with imbalances when it comes to feeling, I have been that person myself, and it has been a process of growth. But as I have learned to embody the valuing of feeling with the warrior within me, I have been able to address life's challenges with greater ease. We all have our role to play in life and we need feeling to support us.
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Matthew Ashdown is an intuitive personal life coach and speaker with his company Grail Quest Coaching, which focuses on supporting people on their journey of self-knowledge. Using wisdom from his foundation in Kriya Yoga practice, and his background as a Law of Attraction Coach, he joyfully guides others to find their authentic self.
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