Many of us learned from society or family that our worth is tied in to our jobs, our financial success, our bodies, our sexuality, our appearance, our degrees (or lack of) and many other material things. God knows I have allowed these to paralyze me in my time as I struggled to find approval that never came from others.
When we can feel worthy independent of these states of existence, we continue to attract all the gifts life has to offer and feel confident in life. We are just not paralyzed by a need to possess these things for our sense of worth and are free from what others may think of us.
Many people are aware that at some level they have tied their worth in to one of these. What is important to know is how to transcend that, how to see yourself worthy because of who you are.
Here are some steps you can take:
1) Identify where self-worth issues are affecting your peace of mind.
What do you think you need to manifest in your life to be valued/appreciated/loved/heard? Be honest with yourself, your subconscious is something that has been programmed since a young age! Be kind to yourself when you recognise how you have tied your worth in to any extraneous factor. Self-judgement prevents us from healing the wounds.
2) Programme your mind with the thoughts you would like to think about yourself.
Affirmations can work in this situation, I believe it. We have come to our present thoughts about ourselves through thinking them repetitively. New thoughts repeated create a new state of being for ourselves. Examples would be something like:
"I am worthwhile because of who I am."
"I am a child of spirit/universe/God."
"I am free from the good opinions of others."
3) Release the shame and guilt that destroys self-worth.
Let go of the shame you feel when you are missing the very thing that you believe defines your worth. EFT is particularly helpful in this situation. Identifying and releasing shame is not something that we can always do by ourselves, and sometimes we need someone else to support us through the process. Be sure to find a compassionate heart to share with.
4) Chooses practices that take you beyond the influence of the mind.
The goal of yoga and meditation is to take you beyond the mind. I have witnessed many limiting beliefs simply burn away as a result of daily kriya yoga practice. What kind of meditation practice calls you? There are many to choose from!
Your worthiness is not related to what you have received in life, it is the core of who you are.
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